We had our closet organized at our Downey Terrace home and one of the nice features was a drawer for my jewelry. When we moved I put all my jewelry into small zip lock bags in a plastic tote that had a lid with a handle. If I wanted to wear jewelry I had to hunt through the bags to find the specific item that I needed, consequently I took out my favorites and shoved the box to the back of the closet. Our home at Pacland Place doesnít have closet organizers and again I was working out of that plastic box. I found some jewelry trays at Bed Bath and Beyond and thought I would organize my stuff that way. I spread my jewelry out and sorted it onto the trays. I needed more trays. Maurice looked at the mess all over the bedroom floor and asked ďWhy donít you just wait and get the closet organized?Ē
I didnít want to wait, closet organizers were not at the top of our budget list. The following weekend my Mom and I spent a Saturday morning going to garage sales. Guess what? I found a brand new unassembled jewelry armoire. Yippee! I took my jewelry out of the trays and filled the armoire. Fortunately I had saved the packaging so I bagged it all up and set it in the closet to return. I finally returned those trays last week and then this Sunday I decided to wear my long pearl necklace. Sunday Maurice and I were scheduled to work the welcome center after worship service and I thought my costume jewelry pearl necklace would look great with my black turtle neck. The necklace was nowhere to be found. In fact all the necklaces that I had placed on the long necklace tray were missing from the jewelry box. I pondered this and figured I must have either thrown them away with all the empty baggies, returned them in the tray to BB&B or tossed them into the Goodwill donation box I have going in the closet.
I phoned the store and they did not have my jewelry. I havenít come across any of it at home. Most of it was costume jewelry however; there were two pieces that I will miss. A few years ago Maurice gave me this nice twisted gold anklet, thatís gone. I also tossed out my very first jewelry purchase. When I graduated from college I bought a slim tri colored gold braided necklace. I made layaway (remember that?) payments for it. The bulk of the necklaces were inexpensive fashion accessories, and thatís one reason you gotta love costume jewelry. Most of it was not a great loss and all of it was stuff, simply material goods that are not even necessary for life. I donít eat, sleep or breathe it, I simply use it to adorn myself and really how important is that? Iím the same person with the necklace as I am without the necklace. I doubt it matters at all to my friends and loved ones whether I wear necklaces or not. Nope, the jewelry indicates my fashion style but it doesnít make me who I am.
ďIf I am what I have and if I lose what I have who then am I? Ė Erich Fromm