Let Me Explain
I talked to Katie who works at Fleet Feet about the rain fiasco compelling them to stop the Lewis & Clark marathon early. She said that after the outrageous down pour the only people complaining were the ones who didn’t run, and felt it should have been cancelled. Katie said that the people in attendance didn’t complain, and I guess it was because they were there and they could understand how the choice was made.
A few weeks before the Ironman I took my bike to Ghisallo for a final check before the race. The guys inspected my bike and put new tubes, tires and a chain on it. I brought it home and took it for a ride only to find that it was clicking and making noise on the big chain ring in the back. When I phoned Ghisallo, they said this didn’t sound right and I should bring it back in. So I loaded the bike and made another trip. My bike was promptly adjusted and I was told why I had this problem. Apparently the technician who adjusted it was trying to keep it from slipping the way many carbon fiber bikes do but this caused a problem with my bike. When they explained what happened I understood.
Many times that’s all it takes – an explanation. How many times do our relationships suffer simply because we do not communicate our reasoning? Sometimes it’s because we assume the other person understands our feelings or logic behind our actions. Other times we just don’t take the time to explain. Then there are times when the subject is difficult or the issue sensitive, so we avoid the hard explanation. You know we avoid having the “intentional conversation.” What I have found is that when I explain, situations turn out better and I think it is because by explaining you show that you care. You also show the other person that they are important to you. Sometimes a little explanation is all it takes.
“The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.” –Anthony Robbins