"The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position." - Leo Buscaglia
Some years ago Kelly played on a sports team and I skipped a few of the team activities. There was an out of town tournament and when the coach heard that I would not be traveling with the team, she commented to Kelly that ďI should be going because I do not do anything.Ē When I heard this I was a little miffed. I was not a deadbeat mom, I did help out, I guess not as much as the coach would have liked. She made this criticism without knowing anything about my schedule and what was going on in my life. Thatís the point, she had no idea, but I did, I knew what I could handle at the time. I know what works for me. For example, I know how much training I can handle. I have friends who train and race a lot more than I do. Oh, they probably think Donna could be a lot faster if she would focus and train more. On the other hand I have friends who think I am crazy and I over train. Can you imagine the stress I would feel if I tried to do what other people thought I should?
You probably agree that you shouldnít worry about what people think. Usually thatís pretty easy to do, but it gets hard when you make a mistake. Did you ever do anything stupid or make a poor choice? How about something that you hope nobody will ever find out about? Thatís worrying what other people will think. Odd isnít it?
Hereís some food for thought: itís
only a big deal to you. For example do you remember Bob Richards who was a
local meteorologist on TV? Hereís what Wikipedia says about him:
Robert "Bob" Richards ( 1957- March 23, 1994), born Robert L. Schwartz, was a popular personality on KSDK-TV in St. Louis, Missouri, where he worked as chief meteorologist, from 1983 until his death in 1994. He grew up in Bloomfield, New Jersey.
Richards' death resulted from a plane crash, which is thought to have been suicide; Richards was tormented and embarrassed that news of his affair was increasingly becoming public. So, on the night of March 23, 1994, Richards took-off from Spirit of St. Louis Airport and flew his plane into the ground.
Sadly he was the subject of conversation for a little while, and then something else became fodder for talk. It is the same with our mistakes, people may talk at first but then itís old news, replaced by something else. Yes, you might lose a friend or two; yes you will suffer the consequences of your mistake, but worrying what people think, why bother?
"...you're always in control of your behavior. Sometimes you just control yourself in ways that you later wish you hadn't." Aldo Pucci